2. You will love your life so much more
If you want, you can keep on kidding yourself that you put other people’s needs ahead of your own for the ‘greater good’, but we both know that a part of you dies inside every time you do it. Don’t even pretend it doesn’t – you’re talking to an ex nice-addict here! Stress, dissatisfaction, self-hatred and many other soul-destroying consequences come from not putting yourself first. Human beings are psychologically programmed to get their needs met. Being selfish is not bad, it is in fact necessary for survival. And here’s the kicker: the better your life becomes, the more your friends and family benefit. So rather than helping them out in a tired, secretly-grudging way, you can generously contribute to their lives with minimal effort as your happiness and confidence increases.