There’s a big difference. Looking for a life partner, but keep picking players, paupers, or just plain zeros? Finding a partner is like finding a good job: you only need one, but making a bad choice wastes your time and sticks you in an unpleasant situation.
To avoid that, you need to make a grown-up decision about whether it’s good for you and how it will enhance your life. That means not letting yourself be taken in by the flashy exterior. It means asking the right questions and using that sharp brain of yours to answer. You need a process to follow that helps you make good choices while dating and determine if he’s relationship material… or not.
Here’s my advice: You’re well into a first date or on your second. You’re very attracted to him. You feel chemistry. Time to pause and apply the “Is he good for me?” test. First, grab your Grown Up You. You know… that smart woman you’ve gotten to know over the years and learned to love and respect? Find her however you can: break his spell, channel her, leave the table for an alone moment… just do whatever it takes to get her there. Now, ask her these 4 questions: