Are you attracted to your friend but fear that telling her might ruin the friendship? Here are the best ways to propose a girl without ruining friendship.
Asking a girl to go from being a friend to girlfriend is a nerve racking journey. The thing is there are no set rules or any particular steps you take in order to go from boy who is friend to boyfriend. My friend, this is a case of wanting both bread and cake to eat and if everything goes wrong you wont get both. It’s a risk, because each person is different, and it all depends on how you do it, how you are, and how she is. Here are some tips to propose a girl without ruining friendship, but keep in mind that the outcome is not assured, and sometimes it is not what you do, but how you do it.
Never say it directly
Going and saying it to the face only works if she feels the same for you. The problem is perhaps that you sent friendship signals, and this has ruined your possibilities from day one. Women are attracted to mystery, and if the first thing you do is unveiling, the safest thing is that she sees as one of their friends. From now behave mysteriously and subtly signal that you have started liking her.
Do not fall in the desperation
The desperation frightens. If you fall for her and show that you are desperate then your friend will move away of you or will reaffirm her position of “only friend” and everything will finish in failure. Keep calm. It may take a few weeks or months for her to see you more than a friend. If you look desperate then most of the women will reject you, so just be cool.
Your expectations are not law
Confessing itself to a friend is not going to destroy their friendship. It will destroy the friendship if you confess to her that she attracts you, and you expect her to respond as you want. If she says no then it is wrong. “Friend zone” is the word a rejected man has invented when his proposal was turned down by his friend. For all the guys, if you are attracted to any girl then give her hints from the start or this will later cause you problems.
This kind of tactics is very used by men. It consists of saying, like playfully and when happening, that they would be seen very or like pair, or declaring him to you as if was not in serious. Watch their reaction: if he laughs, there are few possibilities, but she responds something that draws your attention, perhaps you are successful.
Flirt with her
Much of the charisma of a potential mate depends on the skill of flirting. Let her know that she is your ideal pretty, adorable and ready, or what she most wants other people to see your person. If react well, go ahead. If you start trying to avoid you, beware: you may want to not be more than a friend, or subject ruin your friendship. Wait calmly movement.
Break the touch barrier
For many girls, the difference between “friendship” and “girlfriend relationship” is how they touch the other person. If they are not to touch a lot, go for something small, and if it reacts well, go for something more distinctive “couple”. Never in sensitive or sexual areas.
There is a way to know if she sees you as more than a friend. Tell her you need your advice on something, and talk about a girl with whom you have a relationship, more than friends but less than couple. Ask a tip to have a better relationship with her and watch their reaction. If you suggest with good intentions, does not feel the same for you. If upset or surprised, and does not give you a more or less coherent advice it is that there are possibilities with it.
If she does not feel the same way about you, you feel you have hurt your self-esteem. If this is the case, tell her you need some time to accept it, and go lick your wounds. You might keep some resentment, but it’s not their fault: no one can decide what to feel about a person, and the relationships “pity” never end well.
Do not change for the worse
Acting in a different way before declaring your love, and quite another after proposing and getting rejected gives the impression that you only was her friend to become partner. That speaks very badly of you and the word will spread. Follow your life, be honest with her, and no pressure. They may again be friends or not, but at least you brought you doubt.
From Friends to Dating
If you have taken all the measure properly then you are her close friend, a friend she can rely on or she likes to talk to. Once you both are comfortable being friends with all your flirting and teasing going on then you are ready to move up the ladder from friends to someone she is dating. Now for this there are many different approaches here are some examples, see which one works for you and go from there. These approaches are great to propose a girl without ruining friendship.
1. Spontaneous Approach
In this approach you basically stress upon how good your friendship is and how good it would be if you two would be dating. Even though the name is spontaneous approach this requires a bit of planning. Start with where and how you want to do it.
In this approach you are actually courting her of sort. If you are her friend then you try something personal and romantic for her. You can also buy her a gift like a flowers, chocolate, everything is fair game but nothing too expensive. And finally you tell her using the where to and how to rules.
3. Mysterious Approach
This approach is somewhat like a blind date. You use the secret admirer technique but in a sweet and cute way. But remember that this is a tricky thing to pull off and if not done properly can appear as stalking. So I would advise to use but try to know how she feels about it first. And if any time in between your plan she says that she doesn’t like this secret stalker then you tell her that it is you and apologize if it made her feel uncomfortable. Some girls do like this mysterious approach as they are a bit mysterious themselves.